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by Alisa lisa Sophia (2019-02-08)

Sure enough, a few months later, a new woman arrives in your home.BOOST Milk Enhancer Review She is young and so gorgeous that random strangers in the shopping centre come over to ogle her. They seem not to notice you. When you're back at home, she wants to spend much of her time physically attached to your husband. It seems that since she arrived, not only are you expected to share your husband, but everything else that used to be just yours too. She's made no effort to be friendly or to contribute to the household since she arrived and yet, oddly, everyone assumes that you're thrilled with this new arrangement! Now don't get me wrong. The arrival of a new baby sibling can be wonderful for your family. It just doesn't always seem like that at the start. Or at least not for your toddler. A baby's arrival brings enormous changes for your child and it's important not to lose sight of that in the sleep-deprived haze of newborn-parenthood. So here are my tips for helping your toddler adapt to and bond with their new baby sibling. Some of these are drawn from my clinical experience and theoretical knowledge, but most come from my experience as a mother of three young loving siblings: Encourage bonding with your 'listening belly': Just as you will start to bond with your baby even before their birth, so too can your toddler. Let your toddler know that their soon-to-arrive sibling can already hear them, even from inside your belly. This provides wonderful opportunities for interaction when you're reading, chatting or listening to music with your toddler, for example, "Your big sister and I are just about to read this book now baby. You'll be able to listen to it from inside my tummy and when you come out, we'll be able to show you the pictures too" or "I wonder if you like this song too - your big brother picked this one for us all to listen to". Read stories about new baby siblings. There are quite a few books which have been written to help prepare toddlers for the birth of new baby siblings. We read "I'm a Big Sister" by Joanna Cole (who has also written a big brother version). I particularly liked this story because it explains that babies ask for what they need by crying. My empathic oldest child was very reassured that babies were simply communicating in this way and were not always sad. Once her baby sibling had arrived, I could then ask for her help to work out why her sister was crying - "I wonder if she's trying to ask for a feed or a sleep, what do you think?". Assisting in this way can bring a welcome sense of responsibility for your toddler. Look at your toddler's baby photos with them: I put together a little book for each of my daughters a few months before their new baby sibling was expected. In it, there were photos of their hospital stay, of being kissed and cuddled and of using all the baby gear (eg baby capsule, sling, playmat etc) so that they understood that they had enjoyed these when they were babies and it would soon be our new baby's turn.